Why Your Friends Secretly Want You to Fail
Your best friend stopped calling after you started winning.
Dear unlearners,
Your friends cheered when you got a job.
They celebrated when you got promoted.
Then you started making real money. Suddenly, the group chat got quiet.
There's a hidden line in every friendship. Cross it, and the cheers turn to whispers. Your success threatens the balance.
When you level up, everyone else has to question their choices.
Your friend who stayed at the safe job for ten years? Your leap makes her wonder why she never tried.
Most friends want you to succeed within limits. Well enough to feel good about knowing you, but not so well that it makes them uncomfortable.
Real friends root for your growth even when it stings.
The fake ones say you've changed. You're lucky. You forgot where you came from.
They're projecting. Your success is a mirror reflecting their fears.
Don't shrink so they feel comfortable.
Keep going and pay attention to who's clapping loudest when you win big.
Those are your real friends.
The rest are just people who knew you before you became who you were meant to be.
Until next time,
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Well said Cammi. Almost everything people do and say comes from projection in some form. It's a great way to see past the surface and understand a person's view of the world. Once one recognizes it, one feels the projection, and it is not normally comfortable. However, humans don't do it on purpose, it is an unconscious method of reinforcing our view of the world so it remains stable, and we feel safe and right about our views. Unless one get past it through recognizing their own projection, it is really difficult to understand this. Once one begins to understand and challenge one's own projections, it's like taking the blue pill in the Matrix. An entirely new way to see the world opens up. Thanks for that reminder. What you describe is one of the common ways projection raises its ugly head. It can also work positively as well. That is why con men and scammers can get people's money, they understand this and how to tap into other's trusting nature. So work on understanding projection and your life will change.