The Daily Unlearner by Cammi Pham

The Daily Unlearner by Cammi Pham

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Why Your Friends Secretly Want You to Fail

Your best friend stopped calling after you started winning.

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Cammi Pham πŸ‹
Sep 29, 2025
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Dear unlearners,

Your friends cheered when you got a job.

They celebrated when you got promoted.

Then you started making real money. Suddenly, the group chat got quiet.

There's a hidden line in every friendship. Cross it, and the cheers turn to whispers. Your success threatens the balance.

When you level up, everyone else has to question their choices.

Your friend who stayed at the safe job for ten years? Your leap makes her wonder why she never tried.

Most friends want you to succeed within limits. Well enough to feel good about knowing you, but not so well that it makes them uncomfortable.

Real friends root for your growth even when it stings.

The fake ones say you've changed. You're lucky. You forgot where you came from.

They're projecting. Your success is a mirror reflecting their fears.

Don't shrink so they feel comfortable.

Keep going and pay attention to who's clapping loudest when you win big.

Those are your real friends.

The rest are just people who knew you before you became who you wer…

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